Episode 5
Whatcha Get Me?
Episode 5: Whatcha Get Me?
Marc and Stacie dive into their 24th wedding anniversary, humorously reflecting on how their podcast about marriage managed to overlook the milestone. They share their playful banter about gift-giving, with Marc reminiscing about the creative gifts he's given, such as a bouquet made of Reese's peanut butter cups and a personalized movie mashup video.
The conversation also touches on the couple's dynamic in household tasks. As they look forward to future vacations and surprises, their light-hearted exchange remains engaging with playful humor throughout.
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All right, everyone.
Mark:Well, welcome back to the Marriage and mayhem podcast.
Mark:I am Mark.
Mark:I'm here with Stacy, as always.
Mark:Stacy, hello.
Mark:How are you today?
Stacy:Hello.
Stacy:I'm doing good.
Stacy:Happy.
Stacy:Well, it's a weekend for us right now, so happy weekend.
Stacy:Since we do this before it airs, happy day.
Mark:Just before we get started, just kind of a quick, I don't want to call it a shout out because it's not a shout out, but, yeah.
Mark:So there was Hurricane Helene.
Stacy:Yeah.
Mark:Is that right?
Mark:Just ripped through, like, western North Carolina.
Mark:So a lot of damage in the mountains, a lot of flooding.
Stacy:It's ripped through a lot of places coming up, you know, from the entire south Florida coming up.
Stacy:But here in North Carolina.
Stacy:Yeah, our western part in the mountains really got hit hard.
Stacy:And we're looking more into stuff yesterday of the news.
Stacy:And it's pretty sad, the catastrophe, the damage, people not having their homes.
Stacy:And we saw that one part about the car and, like, the U Haul truck was, like, floating.
Mark:It was, it was, it was like six U hauls.
Mark:It was a bunch.
Mark:It was a U haul business.
Mark:And all the trucks were floating away.
Mark:Yeah.
Mark:There was just so much water, so a lot of damage there.
Mark:So if you're able to, you know, help out, reach out, see what you.
Stacy:Can do, but hopefully everyone's safe.
Mark:Yeah, for sure.
Mark:For, for sure.
Mark:We're fortunate in a spot of Raleigh where we never seem to get hit too hard.
Mark:I mean, we get some wins and knock on wood.
Stacy:Yeah.
Mark:Right.
Mark:But, yeah, that's some devastation there.
Mark:And I don't think it's over.
Mark:I think the hurricane is still going.
Stacy:Heading north, so stay safe to them.
Mark:Of course, too.
Stacy:Yeah.
Mark:All right, well, back to the show type stuff here, back to this marriage and mayhem thing that we do.
Mark:So a couple weeks ago, you had, I wanted to give you props real quick because you had, you know, you had, I don't want to say redid our bathroom, but, you know, we talked about, you were painting it for a bit, but you and Jayla came over and, you know, you changed the light fixtures, you put some stickers or something on the cabinets or I don't know what the official title was.
Stacy:Make it sound like toddler time.
Stacy:So, yes, thank goodness for Jayla, our daughter.
Stacy:She's pretty handy, I'll give her that.
Stacy:So I want to change out the whole light fixture.
Stacy: We lived in this house,: Stacy:Yeah, yeah.
Stacy:So, you know, it was the original, and it started to annoy me, so she came, we did the light fixture, and then you all know about the painting disaster and a follow up on that.
Stacy:No, I never did go back and touch up her face.
Mark:Whatever was done, that was the rest of it.
Stacy:It was done.
Mark:That's how it looks.
Stacy:And then I wanted to do something about the cabinet, and, you know, it's a lot of work to try to sanded and find the paint for it and all that.
Stacy:So, Jayla, as crafty as she is, used contact paper stickers.
Stacy:It's not stickers.
Stacy:They're not like, good job.
Mark:Yeah, it's not the gold star stickers, but, yeah, it's a covering that sticks over.
Mark:It changes.
Mark:The color changes really good.
Stacy:Yeah.
Stacy:And then, you know, the decoration part of it, I got the new shower curtain and the towels and all of that.
Stacy:So it's looking fabulous.
Stacy:Thanks, Jayla.
Mark:Just don't let Davis measure.
Stacy:Oh, my God.
Stacy:Davis is like our second son.
Stacy:He's Jaila's boyfriend.
Stacy:They've been together forever.
Stacy:And yes, he was doing the measuring of ordering the sticker.
Stacy:So he was like, yeah, you just length and width and blah, blah, blah.
Stacy:And that's.
Stacy:Yeah, boom.
Stacy:That's exactly what you get.
Stacy:Yeah.
Stacy:Well, that didn't turn out right.
Mark:We didn't get enough.
Mark:Yeah, we had to under measure one or more.
Mark:Anyways, I'm glad you guys do that because I'm not doing that.
Stacy:No.
Stacy:You wouldn't know where to start.
Mark:No, I'm not doing that handy stuff.
Mark:There's a perfectly good laborer ready to cash my check if I want to do something in my bathroom.
Stacy:Well, thank God I was raised by my daddy.
Stacy:They say, first daughters.
Stacy:I'm going to do it.
Stacy:Where there's YouTube, there's a way.
Mark:Yeah, you've proved it.
Stacy:Yeah.
Mark:What I realized before we.
Mark:When we sat down to record this, I realized the date.
Mark:So we record a couple days in advance of before we release these episodes.
Mark:And the last episode that came out.
Mark:Came out on our anniversary, and we didn't even address that last time.
Mark:We were just like, well, it's just another day for us.
Mark:But it's.
Stacy:Wait, it was on our anniversary.
Stacy:It came out.
Mark:Yeah.
Mark:Yeah.
Mark:October 1.
Stacy:Yeah, that's the date.
Mark:So that's 24 years for us.
Mark:That's kind of a big deal.
Mark:That's kind of a big.
Mark:You know, I don't want to say a lot of people don't make that.
Mark:Cause I'm sure a lot of people do.
Mark:But for us, I mean, that's.
Mark:That's more than half your life you've been.
Mark:You've been with me, so.
Mark:Yeah, so sorry about that.
Stacy:I know that's a long time.
Mark:It is, it is.
Stacy:But yeah, we.
Stacy:We totally forgot to bring it up that our anniversary was.
Mark:We're doing a podcast about marriage and we don't even talk about.
Mark:I don't want to say the main piece.
Mark:I don't think it's the main piece, but it's a piece.
Mark:It's part of it, yeah.
Stacy:You know a hard time remembering our anniversary.
Stacy:I don't know why.
Stacy:It's just a weird number I can never remember.
Stacy:Like October 1.
Stacy:It takes me to usually the day where it pops up on my phone.
Mark:But you have a weird memory because you'll remember all the body parts that you need for a woman's baby or whatever.
Stacy:Well.
Stacy:Cause I do that every day.
Mark:Right.
Mark:But I mean, you'll be at a party and you'll meet someone and like, hey, I'm John.
Mark:And then 2 seconds later you'll say, what was that person's name again?
Stacy:Yeah, I don't remember.
Stacy:I know it's really sad because it means, like, my lack of attention span, but if you tell me your name, I don't remember it by the time you finish your name.
Mark:We had this trick that we used to try to do, and so we'd go somewhere, right?
Mark:And say it was one of my family members was having some kind of cookout or something, or a work event or work event.
Stacy:That's where it usually is.
Mark:So what?
Mark:I would go to Stacy and I said, listen, if I don't introduce you to them, that means I don't know their name.
Mark:So you have to ask them their name and then I'll remember it.
Mark:So I'd be like, hey, this is my wife Stacey.
Mark:And then there'd be like this awkward pause and then they'd say, oh, hey, I'm John.
Mark:Like, oh, hey, John.
Mark:I'm like, oh, yeah, that's John.
Mark:You know, he's cool, you know, just totally hamming it up.
Mark:You know what I mean?
Stacy:Yeah.
Stacy:Or just be like, oh, what's your name again?
Stacy:You know, like, oh, yeah, Stacey mentioned you.
Stacy:Blah blah, blah, blah blah.
Stacy:You talk and they'd be like, I'm sorry, what's your name again?
Mark:Yep.
Mark:I can get away with it at your parties, like your Christmas parties, because I don't see them as often.
Mark:So.
Stacy:Yeah, that's what I mean.
Stacy:It's usually those type of things.
Stacy:But yeah, we do that little trick so we don't both look like assholes when nobody.
Stacy:You're pretty good about remembering names when you hear it, except if you never see them.
Stacy:But for me, like I said, I have a tough time with names.
Mark:I know the names.
Mark:I don't know the names of the faces, because you'll come home and you'll talk about what's going on and who is there.
Mark:And then if you have some girls over or whatever, I know all the names that are in the room, but I have to match them up, and I don't always know how to do that, so I get a little confused.
Stacy:True.
Mark:Yeah.
Mark:So 24 years.
Mark:That's a long time.
Mark:You know what I like about our relationship is that we've never been, like, we don't care about the gifting.
Mark:Right.
Mark:There's no.
Mark:What are you doing for your wife?
Mark:Anniversary.
Mark:There's never.
Mark:I'm not gonna bring you a gold bracelet for anniversary because one.
Mark:You just don't want that.
Stacy:No.
Mark:You know, like, you're not a materialistic situation.
Mark:I think the main reason might be because if you wanted something, you'd just go get it.
Stacy:So I think that is the main, like, a lot of stuff.
Stacy:If we want it, we get it.
Stacy:But I'd also be, like, annoyed.
Stacy:Like, why are you getting me that?
Stacy:Don't waste our money on that stupid stuff.
Stacy:Especially the, like, dumb holidays.
Stacy:Like Valentine's.
Mark:That's a dumb holiday.
Stacy:Well, it is for gifts.
Stacy:Like, they charge so much more money.
Stacy:Don't bring me home flowers.
Mark:A singles man holiday is what that is.
Mark:That's a.
Mark:I'm still dating, you know, a new relationship.
Mark:Like, you're trying to, like, impress the other half.
Mark:Like.
Stacy:Yeah, I don't know.
Stacy:I think some people.
Mark:That's what I'm told.
Mark:I don't know.
Stacy:But I never want, like.
Stacy:No, I couldn't keep flowers alive for three days.
Stacy:So if you spend more money because it's Valentine's Day, getting me flowers, right.
Stacy:I'm just gonna be more annoyed because then I'm gonna be like, great.
Stacy:I have to keep it alive for, like, three or four days now.
Stacy:Cause the amount of money.
Stacy:And then chocolates.
Stacy:Don't get me a box of chocolates.
Stacy:I don't even fucking like chocolates.
Mark:Well, this is why I had to get creative with gifts for you, right?
Mark:Because you can't just go into a jewelry store.
Mark:Everything, like we said, like, flowers.
Mark:Flowers is not the weight of your heart.
Stacy:No.
Mark:Right.
Mark:I tried to.
Mark:I don't want to say it's not every single year.
Mark:It's more like an every other year situation where I come up with an idea.
Mark:So there was one year you mentioned chocolates.
Mark:It made me think of this, you know, do you remember when I had the Reese's peanut butter cup?
Mark:That was my favorite flowers sent to you.
Mark:So it was basically a flower potential made of Reese's peanut butter cups.
Mark:And I remember it showed it was delivered, but then no one in your area got it.
Mark:So I called the hospital and I ended up talking to a maintenance guy.
Mark:And I had this maintenance guy run around, found the package, delivered it to where it was supposed to go.
Mark:Like, I don't remember the guy's name.
Mark:I wish I would have.
Mark:Cause I would have sent him something afterwards for his efforts.
Stacy:Yeah, I was at the hospital that day, and it was like a bouquet of Reese's peanut butter cups.
Stacy:It was awesome.
Stacy:I loved it.
Stacy:That was a sweet gift.
Mark:That was pretty good.
Stacy:You went for that one.
Mark:I'm trying to think of some other good ones here.
Mark:So there was one anniversary where the one I'm probably the most proud of is the video that I had put together.
Mark:So Stacey and I watch a lot of Pixar movies, really?
Mark:But a lot of movies in general during our relationship, and we quote a lot of these movies I started writing down leading up to our anniversary, it was probably a year before I started writing down movie clips that I think I'd want to go out on YouTube and clip them.
Mark:And I said, I'm just going to put a few, you know, 20 minutes of clips of a couple of our favorite movies.
Mark:Well, I started doing this and this video, no joke, it was like an hour and 20 minutes long.
Mark:I added intros.
Mark:I added like a custom trailer.
Mark:I used the Star wars crawl, and I redid that.
Mark:I had previews in there.
Mark:There's like some Eminem commercial that you'd see in an actual movie theater.
Mark:It was pretty dope.
Mark:And so I sat her down and we had some friends overdose.
Mark:And I said, hey, just.
Mark:Can you just watch this for a minute?
Mark:And I linked it up to the tv and none of them had any idea what it was.
Mark:And next thing you know, she's like, what is this?
Mark:And then you see, like, it's customized with her.
Mark:And, you know, I'll just say there probably wasn't a dry eye in the room when it was done.
Stacy:It was so, yeah, you've done good.
Stacy:You've done a couple of those videos for me.
Stacy:Like, you've done the movie one.
Stacy:That was awesome.
Mark:Yep.
Stacy:You've done family video ones of, like, the kids.
Mark:Mackenzie Health was one of them.
Mark:Too, like we did with the pictures.
Stacy:I always cry.
Stacy:Those are great.
Mark:Yep.
Mark:Let's see.
Mark:What was that?
Mark:I did the movie poster.
Mark:So you always tell the kids, make.
Stacy:Wise choices every time they leave the house.
Mark:Every time they left the house.
Mark:So I found this company that takes actual movie posters from movies and you insert your own characters to it.
Mark:So I had the kids get together, take pictures of themselves.
Mark:So I use usual suspects.
Mark:One of my favorite movies, another one of Stacy's hated mark movies.
Mark:But, um, the.
Mark:The COVID for this, if you don't, if you're not familiar, the COVID is there in a police lineup.
Mark:So I had the kids pose like they were in a police lineup and then I put that on the poster and you.
Mark:You customize the entire thing.
Mark:Anyways, I had it framed.
Mark:It was awesome.
Mark:And I kept it a secret from her up until it was like Christmas day.
Mark:Yeah.
Mark:And usually we don't keep secrets from each other, like presents.
Mark:Like we just.
Mark:We just don't get each other's stuff.
Stacy:Yeah, but when we do, we like can keep a secret to save our life.
Mark:Never.
Stacy:I feel like I bought you something.
Stacy:I'm not gonna tell you.
Stacy:And then like 6 hours later I'll be like, but.
Stacy:But don't you really want to know?
Stacy:Like, do you want me to tell you?
Stacy:Cause if you do, I'm not gonna.
Stacy:But we end up always spilling it.
Stacy:But you.
Stacy:You kept that one a secret.
Stacy:And I love it.
Stacy:It's enframed.
Stacy:It's hanging our living room.
Mark:I showed it to Jaila.
Mark:I think Jayla was the one who saw it.
Mark:I think she.
Mark:Cause it came unframed.
Mark:We had to frame it, so we had to put it together.
Mark:I had her help me with that.
Mark:But yeah, that one was pretty good.
Mark:I think the last one that I did was the.
Mark:I did a bunch of index cards around the house where you'd wake up like on your birthday or something.
Mark:And these little affirmation cards.
Mark:Right?
Mark:Because I'm a romantic.
Mark:Sometimes I can put these together.
Stacy:This is just showing you're a better.
Mark:Gift giver, I think I'm definitely a better gift giver.
Mark:For sure.
Stacy:Anniversaries, I'm like, we didn't really catch anything.
Stacy:Guess I gotta put out.
Stacy:We'll go to dinner, maybe sometime birthdays.
Stacy:I'm like, maybe we'll have a cookout.
Stacy:You know, maybe we'll go away for a weekend or something with friends.
Stacy:And dammit, I guess I gotta put out.
Stacy:Like I am.
Stacy:Like not as good at all the.
Mark:Gifts there was one weekend, you, like, you sent the, like, the dogs to, like, you said, oh, I put the dogs to the kennel for the weekend or whatever.
Mark:And, like, that was my gift, that there was no dogs in the house for a couple of days.
Mark:And that was good.
Mark:I liked it.
Mark:I was like, this is great.
Mark:No puppies running around for a couple of days.
Mark:We could.
Mark:I think we.
Mark:I think we had people over.
Mark:We did some things, so it was all right.
Stacy:Yeah, Christmas is, like, another one, too.
Stacy:Like, we have a lot of kids, so we spend our money on the kids.
Mark:Yeah.
Stacy:So it's the same kind of thing.
Stacy:Like, what?
Stacy:Are you gonna buy me clothes?
Stacy:No.
Stacy:I don't even know what I want for clothes.
Stacy:Like, you're not gonna get me clothes.
Stacy:Jewelry again?
Stacy:No, I don't even wear jewelry.
Mark:There was a couple times I bought myself something for Christmas.
Mark:Wrap it up with your name on it.
Mark:Be like an Xbox controller or game.
Stacy:Yeah, that's what I've done, too.
Stacy:Wrap it up from you.
Stacy:Stockings.
Stacy:How many times throughout our life do we just.
Stacy:Christmas Eve, we're like, crap.
Stacy:And we run upstairs and grab stuff from our bathroom.
Mark:We're grabbing soap.
Stacy:Yeah.
Stacy:We're grabbing, like, some toothpaste to shove into our stocking so it looks like we got stuff, too, even though we just grabbed it from our bathroom.
Mark:Thankfully, at this point, all our kids are old enough and they understand that there's no Santa.
Mark:You know what I mean?
Mark:So.
Mark:Spoiler alert, by the way, there's no shame.
Stacy:Kizzle says, wait, does Kira.
Stacy:Kira's back and forth.
Stacy:She doesn't believe in Santa, but she doesn't want to not believe, because then she knows.
Stacy:It's probably like, all right, I'm done with all of this.
Mark:She knows, but she doesn't believe in the Easter bunny because she knows.
Stacy:She knows all that crap.
Mark:When she lost eleven, she's like, should I just give this to you?
Mark:And you give me money?
Stacy:Yeah.
Stacy:And then I was like, no.
Stacy:And then she's like, what do you mean?
Stacy:And I was like, you just said there's no tooth fairy.
Stacy:I'm not gonna keep giving you money for your teeth.
Mark:Right?
Mark:What do I want with your tooth?
Mark:Your little baby tooth.
Stacy:Yeah.
Stacy:So she's just not even talking about the Santa part.
Stacy:But kids are rats, and so they find out way ahead of time because some kids already know, like, young.
Stacy:And then they'll be like, no, there is no Santa.
Stacy:And then they come and ask parents.
Mark:I blame middle school boys.
Mark:They're usually the trouble.
Stacy:Oh, my God.
Stacy:I can't stand middle school boys.
Mark:Do you remember our.
Mark:Do you remember our first Christmas together?
Mark:So we lived in Lowell, in the apartment.
Mark:This is before Gavin was born or.
Mark:No.
Mark:Yeah.
Mark:No.
Mark:You were pregnant with Gavin, I believe.
Mark:Anyway, so this is what I remember, is that we went out.
Mark:It was probably about a week before Christmas.
Mark:We had already shopped for ourselves.
Mark:We had a tree.
Mark:We had all the presents under the tree.
Mark:And this is when our relationship was brand new.
Mark:So we were in this phase.
Mark:And there was like a Saturday night or something, and you had bought me, I think it was like a bathrobe or slippers or something.
Mark:And you wanted me to have it because it was like a cold day.
Mark:And you're like, oh, maybe just open this one present.
Mark:And you're like, cause I think this is something that's good.
Mark:So I open it, and then I was like, okay, well, here, I'll give you one to open.
Mark:And then you'd open it and you'd be like, oh, cool.
Mark:And you'd be like, would you wanna open one more?
Mark:And it went back and forth and.
Stacy:No doubt opened up all of our presents.
Mark:We opened every single present.
Mark:It was like eight presents each that we opened.
Mark:They were like, well, shit.
Mark:So now we had to spend the next week reshopping for the entire.
Stacy:We're not great.
Stacy:Well, he clearly is a little bit better at the gift giving for the thoughtful things than I am.
Stacy:But, I mean, I bought some stuff.
Stacy:I'm also one who always, like, if he wants something, and I know he wants something, like, oh, I want.
Stacy:You know, I need a new xbox and it's April.
Stacy:And I'll be like, okay, but that's your birthday present.
Stacy:Cause his birthday's in May.
Mark:Yes.
Mark:Tied up.
Mark:I get credit.
Stacy:That's your birthday.
Stacy:That's your birthday present.
Stacy:Don't forget on your birthday that this is what, you know, this is what we got.
Mark:Right?
Mark:Right.
Mark:Yeah.
Mark:The kids are a different story for gifts.
Mark:We're talking about Christmas.
Mark:I don't wanna get too deep in the Christmas stuff, but I like how now, like, this is.
Mark:It's gotten a little.
Mark:I don't wanna say lazy, because it's not lazy.
Mark:Right.
Mark:Nobody wants to just.
Mark:I don't like just buying useless stuff for people that they don't want.
Mark:So now with the kids, it's like an Amazon wish list that they put together.
Mark:And then you can just go on.
Stacy:And it takes the fun out of it.
Stacy:But, yeah, now, I mean, every kid, once they get, like, teenagers and on, they just want money, right?
Stacy:So I'm like, ugh.
Stacy:Just.
Stacy:Oh, here you go.
Stacy:Open up your card on Christmas.
Stacy:Like, it's super lame.
Stacy:Mackenzie started it.
Stacy:She was the one who would just be texting me nonstop of, like, Amazon wishlist.
Stacy:And she's like, oh, here, this is my Amazon.
Stacy:Oh, I sent you another Amazon link that I want for Christmas.
Stacy:And she was just, like, texting me all these gifts that she wanted.
Stacy:So I'm like, oh, well, okay.
Mark:Yeah, makes it easy, right?
Stacy:That was easy.
Stacy:At least I don't just give you cash.
Stacy:And then the other kids started picking up on it, too.
Stacy:So I just get Amazon links, and I send those to some parents.
Stacy:Like, you know, grandparents are like, what do they want?
Stacy:I'm like, they want money.
Stacy:Or I can send you something off of their Amazon text messages that they send me.
Mark:The bottom line here is more kids equal more money.
Mark:More holidays, useless or otherwise, is just a way for, you know, Americans to spend money on everything.
Mark:And they make it so easy.
Mark:I mean, Amazon makes it easy.
Mark:Everything just makes it easy to go online, get it.
Mark:It's that immediate satisfaction.
Mark:Cause the shipping is no longer, like, you gotta wait two weeks.
Mark:You order something on Amazon today, they deliver on Sundays now.
Mark:Like, that's crazy.
Mark:We ordered stuff on a Sunday morning, and I'd have it by Sunday night.
Mark:Like, because it's already in the warehouse.
Mark:You know?
Mark:That's ridiculous.
Stacy:I mean, I get excited about, like, Thanksgiving, Christmas.
Stacy:Like, I love those holidays.
Mark:Yeah.
Stacy:Like, they're fun.
Stacy:I even will.
Stacy:We try to find something that the kids, you know, we know that they've mentioned that's not on their Amazon list or something, that we still try to.
Mark:Surprise them throughout the year, you know?
Stacy:Yeah, but those holidays are great.
Stacy:But, like, Easter, like, Kira likes to do hunts, but just because she likes to, like, scavenger hunt or, like, okay, we hide the eggs, and sometimes with.
Mark:Clues, I'm like, she likes to go hunting.
Mark:Like, what are you talking about?
Stacy:But, okay, we should head out to Roxburgh to some of my friends, shout out to my Roxboro people.
Stacy:There you go.
Stacy:Go hunting.
Stacy:That's like, okay, we still do that.
Stacy:And then get her, like, a gift.
Stacy:But then the kids are, like, grown.
Stacy:But do we get an Easter thing?
Stacy:I'm like, oh, my God.
Mark:They just want some chocolate bunnies.
Stacy:I get them a chocolate bunny.
Stacy:Or sometimes I'll just be like, here, here's gift card for each of you.
Mark:Yeah.
Stacy:Happy, merry Easter.
Stacy:Happy Easter.
Mark:Everybody loves socks.
Mark:You don't love socks, but you need socks.
Stacy:But I mean, what the hell do we do with Easter?
Stacy:I didn't even know what Easter was for.
Stacy:I mean, originally, people.
Stacy:I kept being like, Easter.
Stacy:It's Easter Bunny.
Stacy:What are you talking about?
Stacy:Until some people here in the south remember that time I started you talking.
Mark:About how it's like a religious holiday?
Stacy:Yeah, Easter to us is just like an Easter bunny thing.
Mark:Well, Easter to you.
Mark:I know what Easter's about.
Stacy:You're not going to church.
Mark:Well, it doesn't mean I don't know what it's about.
Stacy:Well, I didn't celebrate it in that way.
Stacy:It was years ago that I brought it up or somebody kept talking about Easter at work, and I'm like, why do you guys keep bringing up Jesus or whatever?
Stacy:And sweet little lady I worked with was, like, about to have a heart attack.
Stacy:That's the day I found out.
Stacy:That's the day that he was resurrected.
Stacy:Right?
Stacy:Oh, shit.
Stacy:Am I wrong?
Mark:I didn't say I was an expert in it.
Stacy:Oh, no, I thought you were.
Stacy:You know what Easter is.
Stacy:I think that's the time he came back is not where resurrected is.
Mark:Why don't we save the religious conversation for the experts, all right?
Stacy:I'm derailing squirrel.
Mark:Yeah, I don't know where we're going with Easter bunny stuff.
Stacy:I don't know.
Mark:Anyways, next.
Mark:So the point of this whole situation was, Mark, better gift giver than Stacey.
Mark:Stacey needs to step up her game.
Stacy:All right, fine.
Stacy:But we're talking about our anniversary.
Stacy:So as a going forward, we do have a surprise planned.
Mark:For who?
Stacy:For.
Stacy:Well, it's for me, you.
Stacy:But our anniversary, it's just a little day after our anniversary coming up, so stay tuned.
Stacy:We'll let you know next time.
Mark:Is this back to, like, just the Stacy putting out surprise or something bigger?
Stacy:No, I would think I wouldn't even have to.
Stacy:Cause of this.
Stacy:So that works out well.
Mark:Okay.
Mark:Are we going to, like, a sporting event or maybe like, a pizza?
Stacy:I'm not telling you nothing, Bluey.
Stacy:Get out of here.
Mark:All right, so this is coming up then.
Stacy:This is coming up.
Stacy:And there wasn't anything on the calendar, and you're not getting any clues about it.
Stacy:You're just gonna get dressed, and we're gonna get there, and that's it.
Stacy:And I'm not telling you the day before either.
Stacy:This one, I'm keeping a secret on purpose.
Mark:Okay.
Mark:All right, well, listen, guys, we got a.
Mark:We got an insight here.
Mark:We have a scoop right on the air here.
Mark:So if you don't hear from me.
Mark:Next week, please call emergency services.
Stacy:Don't be a bunch of rats.
Mark:If this is the last episode, get stitches.
Stacy:Get stitches.
Mark:I love it.
Mark:I love it.
Mark:That being said, I'm actually ready for our next vacation.
Mark:And I don't know that without speculating what your surprise is.
Mark:I'll put that aside.
Mark:I won't make you tell me, but I'm ready for our next vacation.
Mark:I saw we got one of our daughters went to the beach or whatever, and we see these pictures of, like, the ocean, and I'm like, I know we were just on vacation, like, a few months back, maybe in April, but, like, I'm ready.
Mark:Like, what's next for us?
Mark:Dominican?
Mark:Is that the next place?
Stacy:Well, the next big vacation is for your 50th birthday.
Stacy:Yeah, that's right.
Stacy:I said it.
Stacy:50.
Stacy:Oh, man.
Mark:30 plus 20 is in the south.
Mark:That's what they say.
Stacy:That's true.
Stacy:You're 30 plus 20, so great.
Stacy:But that's our big vacation.
Stacy:We're doing a big family vacation.
Stacy:We rented a big beach house.
Stacy:We got tons of people.
Mark:It's gonna be awesome.
Stacy:Beach mansion.
Mark:I'm excited for that frickin thing's huge.
Stacy:So that's our big next vacation is may cause all the money's going to that, but maybe the end of next year or, you know, after that time, I'm thinking dominican.
Stacy:I really want to go to Dominican Republic.
Mark:Yeah, a little swim out.
Mark:Swim out pool suite.
Stacy:Kind of like our Jamaica trip.
Stacy:It was awesome.
Mark:Nice.
Mark:Okay, well, you can surprise me with any vacations.
Mark:Just let me know.
Mark:I'm in.
Mark:I got my go bag ready.
Mark:I can hit it.
Stacy:Wait, we skip to vacation so you're all over the place?
Stacy:One of the other things I was leading from our other stuff with your gift giving and everything else is our love language.
Mark:Love language.
Stacy:I wanted to hit that.
Stacy:Yeah.
Stacy:Remember when we did that?
Stacy:Like, years ago?
Mark:Yeah.
Mark:We made little lists.
Stacy:We answered, like, the little question and shared with each other.
Mark:Hit me.
Stacy:I was surprised with yours, like.
Stacy:Cause I thought yours was gonna be the physical touch or whatever, but yours was actually quality time.
Stacy:Yeah, that's what your first one was.
Stacy:Quality time.
Stacy:Spending alone time together, creating memories, et cetera.
Stacy:I think you just wanted to hang out with.
Mark:I wrote that.
Mark:This guy?
Stacy:Yeah.
Mark:Wow.
Stacy:That was.
Mark:Of course.
Mark:I mean, of course.
Mark:Of course I wrote that.
Stacy:You didn't write it.
Stacy:That was the answer.
Stacy:You don't remember it?
Mark:I remember putting the list together, but that was, like, at least a year ago.
Stacy:I feel like even more than that.
Mark:Nice.
Mark:What else did I quote?
Mark:What else was on my love language?
Stacy:That was it.
Stacy:You get your top love language.
Mark:Oh, it was just one thing.
Stacy:Well, you might get a second, but I don't remember what your second was.
Mark:Okay, awesome.
Stacy:Do you remember what mine was?
Mark:You read that and you were like, oh, I love this guy so much more now.
Stacy:No, I was just shocked.
Stacy:I was just like, oh, wow, he wants to spend time with me.
Mark:I've only been saying it for all this time, and then you go build a room and barricade yourself off.
Stacy:Yeah, I was thinking.
Stacy:I was like, hmm, what's his love language?
Stacy:That.
Stacy:Oh, that's what your other one was.
Stacy:Words of affirmation.
Stacy:You liked me being like, good job.
Stacy:What are you into?
Mark:Yeah, please tell me good job.
Stacy:You're doing amazing.
Stacy:That's all I wanted to like words of affirmation.
Stacy:I love you.
Stacy:You're awesome.
Stacy:Yeah.
Stacy:Do you remember what mine was?
Mark:I feel like I'm gonna get punished for this, but.
Mark:No, I don't.
Stacy:No, you're not gonna get punished because I forgot your second one.
Stacy:But mine was the acts of service.
Mark:Acts of service?
Mark:Like cleaning the bathroom, cleaning the kitchen, that kind of thing?
Stacy:Yeah.
Mark:Okay.
Stacy:You doing selfless deeds to win my heart, huh?
Stacy:Aka, you know, help me get something.
Mark:I feel like I nail that.
Mark:I nail that every week.
Stacy:I love you more when you do shit that I don't have to do.
Stacy:And I will give you credit.
Stacy:You do.
Stacy:You do a lot.
Stacy:You grocery shop, you laundry.
Stacy:Like, this isn't a one, man.
Stacy:You know.
Mark:Well, to be fair, I do my own pony show.
Mark:I don't do your laundry.
Stacy:No, you do your own laundry now.
Stacy:Cause I got tired of that shit.
Stacy:So everybody does their own laundry.
Stacy:I do my own laundry.
Mark:It's fair.
Stacy:But, you know, you do a lot around the house and helping and kids stuff.
Mark:This is being recorded, you know.
Stacy:Well, that's why we're together for 24 years, being married.
Stacy:Cause, you know, you're not a total.
Mark:Scrub, not a degenerator.
Mark:Just sits down and waits for a sandwich to be delivered.
Stacy:No, we wouldn't have made it.
Mark:No, that's true.
Stacy:14 months if that was the case.
Stacy:So teamwork makes the dream work.
Mark:Baby does.
Stacy:So you do give the acts of service.
Mark:All right.
Stacy:Even though sometimes I wish it was a little more acts of service.
Stacy:But overall, what you could always give.
Mark:But you're.
Mark:But you're crazy when it comes to say good job if we just talk about, like.
Mark:Like, from a cleaning perspective, right?
Mark:So I'll get up in the morning.
Mark:Like on a weekend morning.
Mark:I'm gonna be up at by 738 o'clock.
Mark:I'm awake, right?
Mark:Typically speaking, you are not.
Mark:So I'm up for a few hours, whether I'm doing some podcast editing or I'll walk the dog.
Mark:Sometimes I'll even run to the grocery store.
Mark: : Stacy:Like, no, let's not get carried away.
Stacy:You might be down here watching a movie.
Stacy:No, it's not like you're always running around.
Mark:I don't watch them in the morning.
Mark:I get all my little knickknack things done first, but now it's ten or eleven ish.
Mark:And I'm like, now I'm thinking about putting a movie on if we're not going anywhere.
Mark:You know, I'm like, okay.
Mark:But that's when, like, I don't know, your meds kick in or something.
Mark:So now you're running around cleaning everything.
Mark:You're sweeping, you're doing all this stuff.
Mark:And now I'm feeling bad.
Mark:Cause I'm like, well, I already did some shit this morning.
Mark:And then here you are running around.
Mark:So now I'm just mingling around.
Stacy:Anything that was like, not on your list?
Stacy:Yeah, not on the house list.
Stacy:Like, shit needs to be done around the house.
Stacy:So then I come and I'm like a ball in a china shop and I'm cleaning everything and clanging things as you're in here watching a movie and the kids are prepping to watching what?
Stacy:And I'm like, hello?
Stacy:You know, anybody wanna do anything around here?
Stacy:My passive aggressive.
Mark:I try to.
Mark:I try to get up and do something before that version of Stacey makes an appearance.
Mark:You know what I mean?
Mark:So I've gotten better.
Mark:And there's been plenty of times where I don't get there in time.
Mark:But lately, like, when I see that happening, I'm like, okay, I'll.
Mark:Let me wipe a counter down for a few minutes or start taking a trash.
Stacy:Baby, did we talk about the stuff?
Stacy:That actually pisses me off.
Stacy:Listen, people out there tell me how.
Mark:Much time we got left.
Stacy:I don't know, but I'm gonna.
Stacy:We gotta hit this highlight, okay?
Stacy:You do the acts of service.
Stacy:They're great.
Stacy:I love it.
Stacy:Okay, but you always fucking leave, like one part of it.
Stacy:What do you mean that you don't finish it?
Stacy:Like is nails on a chalkboard.
Stacy:I have 100, but one of them is every time you're like, oh, do the dishes.
Stacy:There's always one or two dishes that are still in that sink.
Stacy:And I'm like, what about these?
Stacy:The dishwasher?
Mark:No chance.
Mark:They're in the sink.
Mark:They may be, like, left on the counter.
Stacy:No, you will have something soaking in the sink.
Stacy:And I'm like, what?
Stacy:God forbid, wash it.
Stacy:And then don't get me started on, like, oh, you'll put all the trash away, but then all of a sudden there's, like, two wrappers that are on the counter that you leave there.
Stacy:And I'm like, what is the point if you don't, if I have to come behind you and finish this stuff?
Stacy:Well, own it.
Stacy:You do that all the time.
Stacy:That's, like, my biggest pet peeve.
Mark:I will.
Stacy:Oh, sweep.
Stacy:Okay, I'm hitting hard.
Stacy:Sweeping is another one.
Stacy:You'll be like, oh, well, I swept the floors.
Stacy:And I'm like, well, where?
Stacy:Look at all this stuff over here.
Stacy:And he's like, well, I just did, like, the main areas.
Stacy:Oh, well, great.
Stacy:You swept up, like, a straight line from the doorway to the kitchen.
Stacy:You're laughing.
Stacy:Cause it's so true.
Stacy:And I'm like, what?
Stacy:Okay, but you took out the broom.
Stacy:Like, you took it out to do it, so why not just do it?
Stacy:You.
Stacy:Like, I did all this, but then you really half asked half of it.
Mark:It's cleaner than when I left it.
Stacy:Oh, my God.
Stacy:Look, now I've just got all fired up.
Mark:All right, all right.
Stacy:But you're great.
Stacy:You do a lot around the house.
Stacy:If you could just finish the fucking things that you do, it'd be a lot more helpful.
Mark:Just close the gap.
Mark:All right, all right.
Mark:You know, I got some good notes here.
Mark:I'm adding some constructive notes to my.
Stacy:This is a follow up.
Stacy:I'll let you guys know if he actually completes the tasks.
Mark:Got it.
Mark:Got it.
Mark:I'd always try to do, like, when I get home from work before you, and there's stuff in the sink.
Mark:This is my.
Mark:This is a theory, the theory I have, and it overlaps into other things.
Mark:I call it the dishes in the sink theory.
Mark:Right?
Mark:So if any guys are listening, this is what happens.
Mark:No, no.
Mark:This is.
Mark:This is solid stuff right here.
Mark:This is gold, right?
Mark:So if you come home from work, right?
Mark:So you come home from work, and if there's dishes in the sink, doesn't matter if there's one or ten, doesn't matter, right?
Mark:Instantly, like, your rage.
Mark:Like, boom, you're in the red because you're like, okay, you were here.
Mark:It doesn't matter if I walked in two minutes before you or 2 hours before you.
Mark:I was here before you.
Mark:Why isn't this done?
Stacy:No, just a lie.
Mark:Just bear with me.
Mark:Bear with me.
Mark:Right?
Mark:So it's like, okay, but you're like, you won't say it to me, but your needle's in the red.
Mark:And then you just kind of bite your tongue and you do your Stacy thing and walk away.
Mark:However.
Stacy:I do.
Mark:However, if you come home and there's no dishes in the sink, like, you don't notice anything, right?
Mark:Needle never moves.
Mark:You're just like, da da da da.
Mark:You come in and you're happy.
Mark:Right?
Mark:This is like pacified, Stacy.
Mark:Because you have no idea whether I did it or it was done before.
Mark:So there's no credit.
Mark:You don't get credit for doing the kitchen.
Stacy:You want the words of affirmation.
Mark:Well, that's what I mean.
Mark:So as a husband, you have to sometimes realize it's kind of a.
Mark:It's kind of a wife hack because there's little things to keep you happy.
Mark:And if I wanted to intentionally get you mad, I would intentionally put stuff in the sink.
Mark:I've never done that, by the way.
Mark:I'm just.
Mark:This is.
Mark:Someone might do that.
Mark:But if.
Mark:You know.
Mark:But these little things.
Mark:If I say, okay, she's gonna be home at five or whatever, at the very minimum, by 430.
Mark: Quarter of: Mark:It doesn't have to be clean all day long.
Mark:It's gotta be clean the ten minutes before you get home.
Mark:And then that's it.
Mark:That's the.
Stacy:Okay.
Stacy:For the record, I only do that on Mondays and Fridays, when you generally work from home.
Stacy:Because then, like, if you're at work all day, just like I am.
Stacy:Like, it is what it is.
Stacy:I don't get mad those days, but when Mondays and Fridays, when you work from home and I come home and I'm like, I mean, what.
Stacy:What did you do?
Stacy:Like, hello?
Mark:Well, the key word in that is working from home.
Mark:Like, I do have work things to do.
Mark:Like, it's.
Mark:It's convenient that I can go put laundry in and walk around the house.
Mark:Like, yes, of course.
Mark:So.
Mark:All right, fair enough.
Mark:Like, we've broken some.
Mark:We've broken some windows here.
Mark:This is good.
Mark:You know, we're knocking down some walls, you know.
Stacy:Okay, let's build them back up.
Stacy:Get your shit done.
Mark:We're gonna make it another 24 years, that's for sure.
Mark:Nice.
Mark:All right, well, listen, this has been.
Mark:This has been a good time.
Mark:Anything else you want to get on me about before?
Stacy:You know, I think I'm gonna leave it at that.
Stacy:I'm gonna keep some shit in my pocket.
Stacy:I mean, there's plenty.
Stacy:I'll keep some in my pocket.
Stacy:We'll just keep that rolling.
Mark:Keep it in the.
Mark:It's more like in the holster.
Mark:Cause you got it ready to be.
Mark:Come right out.
Stacy:No, it's ready.
Mark:And if, you know, if you've seen Tombstone, they have holsters.
Mark:That's what holds the gun.
Stacy:Yeah, that's the old school, like, dumb stuff.
Stacy:You know what else has holsters and guns?
Stacy:Like cool new movies.
Mark:All right, anyways, listen, always a pleasure, Stacy, having you on here with us, with me in the morning this week.
Stacy:This is also my podcast.
Mark:It is.
Mark:I know.
Stacy:It's nice to have you on here.
Mark:I'm just.
Stacy:Anyway, thank you guys for listening.
Stacy:Love that you guys listen in.
Stacy:Hopefully, you enjoy it and share it with your friends and like it, follow it, whatever else people do with podcasts.
Stacy:So have a great week, and we'll talk to you later.
Mark:Bye.
